See what I did there? A nice blanket absolute statement about absolutes.
Hey it’s day 25, my friends, and I’ve got one reminder and one question.
The reminder: Words like Everything, always, never, none, nobody are not helpful words when it comes to building a narrative about you, the world, or people. It is counter-growth thinking. When we notice ourselves moving into the absolute realm, we should simply notice we are feeling untethered, stress, fear or resistance. “It’ll never work.” Is not growth-mindset. “You never listen.” Also not helpful. It might FEEL true in the moment, but it’s not a true representation of life. Life’s true representation holds all kinds of things true at the same time with little room for words that position us for failure or an insurmountable power differential.
Other words to look out for when thinking about yourself, your life and your goals: Need to, have to, should those words create a narrative that someone is your jailer or perpetual 8th grader Algebra teacher holding a yardstick over your head. Again, not kind, and not growth mindset. Needing to, having to and shoulding your way through life sucks creativity, imagination and curiosity out of the room and replaces it with a list of ways for you to pass some imaginary rubric for living. You’re a grown-ass adult who probably isn’t wanted in multiple states for unpaid parking tickets AND those damn photos where you skipped the toll booth. Trust your discernment, wisdom and experience to be able to expand your decision making into, “What would meaningful? What would be fun? What would change my life for the better?”
Ok that’s the reminder. Here’s the question:
In your life right now, what wants to happen?
Have you ever been in a moment where you know that one small shift of one small domino of action or intention would send you on a path you know is right there waiting for you? Have you ever asked yourself, “What wants to happen?” There is a current to this life. There is a movement unseen and sometimes we can sense it. Sometimes, deep down, we know that what we pretend will be really hard, actually could be really easy if we leaned it and let it go. Lean in. Let it happen. Burn the absolute words and have a great day.